Wednesday, May 26, 2010

big bullies

in life, we win some and we lose some.. we can't get the best of everything. that is an understood fact!

as the wife, when mr hubbies were hanging out at the mamaks with their friends, we were left with limited options.. we want to hang out with our girlfriends but need to sort the laundry first, get the sitter for the kids, make sure dinner is served.. and even when can managed all those, we still won't be in peace while hanging out - will be constantly looking at the watch to ensure we didn't exceed the untold curfews.

as the hubby, it may seems easy for us. we say no, and the wife must obey. we say now, it means now. we say ok, and that will be after few hours of negotiations. but, we are the breadwinner. we have to work. we must bring food to the table. we must pay the mortgages. we need to pay the bills. so what if our wives work, still, we need to give them money when the wifey asked for it. and we have to kiss ass to ensure our work is secured and that is not easy. some may need to be away from home for days and months for work.. imagine missing all those teeny weeny proud moments with the kids and the wifey.. not much choices left for us..we've been bullied too.

as the younger sisters and brothers, we receive instructions from the elders. to some extent we need to sacrifice their social life because we need to stay in coz nobody's home. we need to do the laundry. weclean the dishes. we do all the chores becuase the elders did those way before they were born. 

as the elder brothers and sisters,  we give constructive opinions. our opinions always been mistakenly identified as orders. we get constructive opinions from our parents too. we just delegate them to our siblings. sharing is caring, huh..

as an employee, we will always been bullied. we were paid to be bullied. we were bullied by the management, who keep saying we need to be proactive and take ownership. we stay in silence...but of course, we bully the system in our own way... remember, we should print that email in black and white, but it came out as in colours, with intention. we should be googling for technical info but been busy updating the blog and reading latest facebook status. we should call the customers and end up with chatting with our long lost friends...

that is how life is - it rotates. when we keep telling people our sob stories about how difficult life treated us as a person, we should remind ourselves how a big bully we could be when we were there.

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