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been tied up with things, lately. well, not much of a thing as i still can go back from work on the dot to ensure i managed to take that half hour nap before dinner. (then dinner, then sleep)

anyway, there were commotions at school last week. nope, it wasn't aimar! the principal called me to tell that "daniel's mum told us that aidan bit daniel!".. o my, o my. being a mother, i became defensive instantly. i knew what aidan did was wrong, but, i refuse to admit immediately. i remembered aidan telling me the day before about the pencil's issue. 

there was this one funcky nice straw-like pencil that he got from the 7E and he requested to bring it to school. i said no the first time. but this 6yo boy has his own way to win mama's approval. he told me "but i ask for your permission. can i bring it mama?".. with hesitation, and thinking that he was partly right, i said ok, only if he promised to take care of the pencil. not that it matter so much, but, as aidan been losing his stationeries everyday, i guess it would be a good practise for him to take care of his stuff. however, as he came back from school, he told me that he lost the pencil. he said "daniel asked for the pencil." and i interrogated "did you gave daniel?". he said no, but he put the pencil on the table and when we wanted to keep it back in his bag, the pencil was gone. and so, it ended there. i said "that is why i said not to bring anything to school". 
and when ms hana called me and said "aidan bit daniel", i knew he has his own reason. unlike aimar, aidan would get aggressive when he's been provoked. he would bit, hit and do all those beyond thinking, in a blink of eyes. anyway, as i told ms hana what i knew, ms hana was telling me "daniel is a very cheeky boy. he has this habit to take things from his friends, but, his mom will always check his bag"..to cut it short, i asked for daniel's mum contact to apologize (though i must admit i did hesitate) and called her to say sorry of what had happened. 

back from work, i asked aidan the whole story... just to found out, my hesitation about daniel being cheeky and took aidan's pencil that resulted in aidan's biting him was all me wrong. i was playing the very defensive mother, and i should have not. but tell me, who's mother won't? apparently, daniel did not take aidan's pencil, it was nadia and she admitted and gave the pencil back to aidan. poor daniel, being the biggest boy at school, got bitten by aidan was not something he would feel proud of. and he was not at fault at all.... gosh! i texted his mum and apologized, again. 

and that night, aidan was different. he refused to talk. he went to bed early, out of norm. he wasn't talking and explaning. and i knew, him misjudging daniel and it went all the way up to his beloved principal's knowledge was not something that he was proud of. aidan never cared about others, but he was selective enough to get approvals from his mama, aboh, atuk and teacher hana.. he was always at his best behaviours, and i'm so thankful for having such an obedient boy like him.

i thought the biting issue stopped there.. only to find out that he pinched daniel on friday! gosh! and i thought everything has over! i asked aidan what happened and he told me "he was cutting queues in front of me".. silap besar la kan.. he was so full of grudges over daniel, and daniel carik pasal cam tu.. gosh!!!!

me - as time writing this still speechless. frankly, i didn't know how to deal with these kind of stuff. i can just let it flow, and told him this is part of life learned and he shouldn't do what he did. i did that. and was that enough? hmmmmmmmm